We recently wrote about a CNBC article, “If you use any of these 9 phrases every day, you’re more emotionally secure than most.” The same author there has another related post about identifiers of a healthy relationship. Which of these resonate with you?

“I’m listening…”

Disagreements are inevitable, but it’s important to still support each other through active listening.

You have to be willing to suspend your desire to be “right” or to get your point across — long enough to hear and empathize with your partner’s perspective.

Similar phrases:

  • “I’ll stop talking now and really try to listen to your point of view.”
  • “I want to hear your side of things, even if we ultimately disagree.”


“I appreciate your effort.”

It’s tempting to become overly focused on things you don’t like about your partner, and to point them out at every chance you get.

But it’s important to highlight the good in their actions. Happy couples express gratitude for each other’s efforts. It’s a great way to make everyone feel valued.

Similar phrases:

  • “I appreciate that you work so hard to support our family.”
  • “I’m grateful that you take the kids to school because it helps me get things done in the morning.”

“I like you.”

The healthiest couples don’t just love each other, they like each other, too.

Loving someone is an intense feeling of affection; liking is about seeing them for who they are and acknowledging the attributes you enjoy about them.

Similar phrases:

  • “I like that you are so passionate about staying healthy.”
  • “I like how devoted you are to your hobbies.”



To see all of the phrases and the rationale, check out the CNBC article. 

Tell us over on our socials, do you use any of these?