A recent CNBC article, by Dr. Cortney Warren, outlines 9 phrases you use if you’re more emotionally secure than most. Thanks to author and therapist Nedra Glover Tawwab for the find.

“Let me think about that before I respond.”

One of the most noticeable characteristics of emotionally secure people is that they articulate themselves well. They choose their responses carefully and aren’t impulsive in their reactions.

Similar phrases:

  • “I’m really frustrated and need some time to myself. I don’t want to say something I might regret later.”
  • “I don’t have an answer right now. Can we revisit this conversation tomorrow?”



“I’m not comfortable with that.”

They always communicate their needs in a respectful way. This means they state how they feel when someone treats them poorly. If they feel their boundaries are being violated, they’ll take action to make changes.

Similar phrases:

  • “When you say things like that, I feel hurt and angry.”
  • “If you treat me like this, I’m going to step away because it’s not healthy for me.”


“This matters to me.”

Having a solid belief system is key to being emotionally secure because it guides our choices. When a value is violated, emotionally secure people are able to take a stance for what they believe is moral and fair.

Similar phrases:

  • “I really care about this, even if you don’t.”
  • “I don’t think you’re acting in an ethical way, and I can’t watch it happen without standing up for what I believe is humane.”



To see all of the phrases and the rationale, check out the CNBC article. 

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